A healthy romantic relationship or marriage must be built on a safe and loving foundation of true intimacy. True intimacy goes beyond lust and sex. Pia Mellody says “sharing feelings and expressing feelings are the foundation of true intimacy.” Developing intimacy answers the question “are you there for me?” The essential first step in building such a foundation is the creation of safety. Without safety, exposing one’s vulnerability is risky and can be very dangerous. Vulnerability must be held sacred by both partners. Facilitating Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one method that I use to support my clients developing true intimacy.